Your body has been keeping score and it might be why you can't switch off

Your body has been keeping score and it might be why you can't switch off

 Have you ever noticed that your body holds on to things your mind has long since moved past?

You've dealt with the situation. You've processed it, talked about it, decided to let it go. And yet your shoulders are still up around your ears. Your jaw is still tight. You still wake at 3am with a low-level hum of something you can't name.

This isn't weakness. It's not a sign that you haven't done enough work on yourself. It's the body doing what bodies do, storing what the mind couldn't fully integrate.

What we mean when we say the body keeps score

The phrase has become widely known in recent years, but what does it actually mean in practice?

When we experience stress, fear, grief, or overwhelm, particularly when we experience it repeatedly, or when we don't have the resources in the moment to fully process it, the nervous system responds. It activates. It protects. And when the experience passes without complete resolution, a residue remains.

That residue lives in the body. In muscle tension. In patterns of breathing. In the way the nervous system stays primed for threat long after the threat has passed. In psychosomatic symptoms, headaches, gut issues, chronic pain, fatigue, that don't resolve with purely physical treatment.

The body is communicating. It's trying to complete something that never got finished.

The difference between managing and resolving

Most of us have gotten very good at managing. We exercise, we meditate, we go to therapy and talk about our childhoods. We understand our patterns intellectually. We know why we react the way we do.

And yet the patterns persist.

This is because understanding alone doesn't reach the body. You can have a profound insight about why you shut down emotionally in relationships and still shut down the next time it happens. The insight lives in the mind. The pattern lives somewhere else.

Somatic work, body-based psychotherapy, bridges that gap. It doesn't bypass the mind. It works with both, using the body as a doorway into what the mind can't fully access on its own.

What Core Energetics actually does

The modality I work with is called Core Energetics. It was developed by John Pierrakos, a psychiatrist who trained with Wilhelm Reich and later integrated spiritual psychology into his approach. It has a clear lineage, a four-year diploma program, and a rigorous training pathway. It's not a wellness trend.

Core Energetics combines breathwork, movement, and body awareness to work with the patterns held in the body. Sessions begin with conversation, where are you at, what's been coming up, what's present today. Then, depending on what's alive in the room, we might move into some body-based work.

This doesn't mean anything confronting or uncomfortable. The pace is always yours. The work is guided and held. What we're looking for is the place where the body is ready to release what it's been holding, and when it does, the shift is unmistakable.

Clients describe it as: lighter. Clearer. More themselves. More able to be present in their relationships and their daily life.

Psychosomatic symptoms are a conversation worth having

If you have a health issue that hasn't fully resolved despite medical treatment, chronic pain, gut problems, fatigue, skin conditions, recurring tension headaches, it's worth asking what the body might be trying to communicate.

This isn't about abandoning medical care. It's about adding another lens. In my work I look at ongoing physical symptoms with a psychotherapy lens, getting curious about what might be happening in the nervous system and the subconscious that could be contributing to what's showing up physically.

Often, when that conversation happens and the body is given space to complete what it started, symptoms begin to shift.

You're not broken. You're human.

The body keeping score isn't a failure. It's a sign of a nervous system that did its job, protected you, helped you cope, kept you functional. The work now is to help it understand that the threat has passed, and that it's safe to let go.

That's what somatic psychotherapy offers. Not a diagnosis. Not a fix. A conversation, between you, your mind, and a body that has been waiting for someone to listen.

I work with clients in Murwillumbah and Tweed Heads and online across Australia.

If this is resonating, I'd love to hear from you. Book a free discovery call and let's talk.

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